Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. Why? The men work. So be kind to her. EOR, I would venture to say, even with being fairly new to BCC that few here mean to give offense. Your ward contains women at various stages of their lives, including some who dont have children and never will. As a mother of six kids, Ive had some serious depression about motherhood in general over the years but not usually on Mothers Day. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Our current Bishop decided not to do anything for mothers day. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. Well done! She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Classic! Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. I choose to stay away for most MDs and all FD. when she becomes a God like I know she will she will be an inspriation to all ladys, As a member of our bishopric, I assigned the topics for this weeks talks, all motherhood focused, and I have forwarded your paragraph with Elder Eyrings quote to each of them. They really did. I hope Sunday goes well for you. I dont see why having a Tiger Mom would be necessarily any more or less traumatizing than having a Don Draper Mom. After living with me for almost 17 years, hed better get it right! Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. The best MD talk was from a woman who gave a list of all the things she wished she had known when she was 18. Many said not to assignmother or female focused messages in sacrament meeting, others said to keep your effortssimple as long as it is sincere. I just dont like when they push the plant on me after Ive politely declined it. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. ), Miriam his sister who obeyed her mother and stayed with him and suggested her mother be his nursemaid, and the daughter of Pharoah, who raised him. (just kidding). She discusses the divinity of motherhood and how every woman can become a mother in the world around her. Use Mothers Day as an example of how a saint can use a tradition of men as an acceptable way to express Gods love and promulgate the Gospel. There is a *big* difference a HUGE difference between being *foreordained* to something and actually **BEING** something, as is made very clear in the temple. Perhaps the reason so many women have an aversion to an all Sacrament Mtg. Evry cry of pity heeding, Also waiting by the library's tiny window with the Dutch door was a . They can eat whatever they want, in fact. If they give out a plant that I can put in the ground, Ill be sad to miss that, though. Yes. Replies to my comments
And he completely meant it too. Thanks. But I love my mother, and I miss her, so Im hopeful that the experience will be a good one. Please know that it is worth it then, now, and forever.. please please please please dont pull us teachers from Primary for pie or talking. The perfect sacrament meeting talk? Enter your email address to follow BCC and receive new posts by email. Watching the Primary children singing to their mothers in Sacrament meeting was the hardest. April 24, 2015 in General Discussions. I am aware of a seminary/institute teacher who is apparently of the firm and unshakeable belief that a pile of pizza must be provided each week without fail. Submitting to the will of the Father, He suffered more than we can comprehend: Blood [came] from every pore, so great [was] his anguish for the wickedness and the abominations of his people (Mosiah 3:7). Id also like a break from a poem in the EFMormons which says that no painting, no book, no song penned by a mother could be as great as a worSocrates by their children in the future, so spending your time raising the next generation is the greatest thing you can do. Just a question here, since I am new to this blog. We like to celebrate mothers in the Church and we like to ignore fatherhood. We got the story about women blessing their cows a couple of years ago. Why shouldn't women be those who teach about the glory of god that is woman? Geesh! Christmas is not a universal holiday and thus we should not celebrate one day a year, We focus on Christ every day and every Sunday so there is no need to celebrate on Christmas. #16 They asked him to speak again?! we have never ceased head-shaking about his, well, completely horrific timingand choiceoif topicand general ignorance and intolerance (and sheer bovine stupidity). However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! We can only celebrate the nonentity because we are afraid of hurting those who are not being celebrated "today". It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. Feelings of guilt, shame, loneliness, anger, disappointment, abandonment, and not measuring up to impossible expectations are prevalent. Now they never had fought, yet they did not fear death; and they did think more upon the liberty of their fathers than they did upon their . Have all the talks be by women. We changed the lines to "Mother Do You Love Me". Its always the wives. And out the door I flee. (Just what mothers need on an already stressful day . I like the post. No talk is necessary, but a simple acknowledgement of our love for all the women in our lives is nice. He had returned from his mission and married (as did I), and he was asked to give the main Mothers Day talk. A break from the primary room!) Didnt we predict this? My Mother will one day reach the godstage with my Father and will have there own planet. Further, that it wasnt the wards responsibility to celebrate the day. Very useful counsel, Mark. He did not have any high-profile ward or stake calling at the time, not that it matters. I miss her something terrible, and being at the grave-site really brought all of those emotions to the surface. Any suggestions as to what you would truly and realistically appreciate being presented? I actually think its good to celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Days with the caveat to be sensitive to the feelings of those who have difficulty with that celebration. The only thing I might try if I were in charge would be to put out pink, white, red carnations and safety pins and invite everyone in the ward to wear a carnation to honor their mother pink/red if shes living, white if shes passed away. I haven't a clue about how to interact at times. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. May 6, 2017
It appears that we have adopted the perverted sense of inclusion to such a degree that we cannot mention our gratitude for our mothers and motherhood without "hurting" or "marginalizing" those who are not mothers. Put me in the column of those who think Sacrament Meeting should be about Christ. Elder Perry uses personal stories and memories of his own mother to illustrate the importance of teaching the gospel inside the home. For the injured interceding, by Leading Saints | Apr 27, 2016 | Articles, Bishops, Elders Quorum, Relief Society | 21 comments, In 2016 Leading Saints conducted a survey about ward mothers day gifts. And I did use some of the suggestions here. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! Thanks! Preparation Print the song pages. Do other Christian women struggle with church-going on this day? Drunk as he could be. Your comment was excellent, especially this part: Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. He gets points for effort and most humorous and memorable! A cookie in a baggie? The second is about a mother who diligently loved her son as he struggled with same-sex attraction and labored him through his despair. I already have felt many of the concerns expressed, and approach this assignment with fear and trembling. Can I suggest NOT sending the youth out hunting all women? They seemed to love the tradition and I never received negative feedback. Last year, I gave this talk. Didn't Sheri Dew give a talk titled, "Are We Not All Mothers?" Id like to see the swords beaten into plow shares this mothers day And for once ( just once) the SAHM vs working mom verbal cat claws retracted. We got there at about 7:30 AM and one of my Aunts had already been there and left flowers for her. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Your email address will not be published. Just after she became a beehive, her mother had an affair. Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. Thank you for writing this blog post. Forgive me for not understanding the blessing part of it. You wouldnt give a talk in a single adult ward about the joys of scouting. LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories to hear my little kids sing and for my older kids to pass out a flower. I'm fascinated by these two suggestions because I was leaning toward only having youth and men speak so that all the mothers had the day off. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. Mothers day will likely be about Gods unconditional love for us and how it pains Him to see us struggle And how even mothers cannot quite reach that level of love, but we understand the concept because most of us love our children in much the same way (but n, Focus your talk on how much we ALL need Jesus (even mothers) because we are all sinners (read the Bible It tells us so). Disciples of Christ know what they want and there is not need to celebrate Christmas in front of others that are not faithful. It will easily demonstrate the weaknesses in the position: The logic is faulty. Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. Yet, we have a tendency to go to extremes, particularly culturally, forgetting that we are worshiping God, and that we are not God nor expected to be God in this, our mortal state. http://mormonartist.net/2012/02/day-three-jeanna-stay/. 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But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. I explained that I was not calling any men to speak, due to their tendency to give perfect mother talks, and felt they could do a better job giving an honest uplifting talk that could be of benefit to the mothers in the congregation. Nothanks to my back problems got to fly non-stop from Atlanta to Seattle. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. How cool someone reading my rambling! Women are saved in child bearing is good as always. I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. Many times, it seems bishoprics want to put women on a pedestal for a day, while trying not to offend anyone. I would love tohear from you. Last year we did two songs for the Mother's Day sacrament meeting, and they turned out beautifully, so I thought I would share them with you. It seemed to strike just the right tone. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. This change wasnt well-received as it occurred without any advance notice. And the Uchtdorf talk on grace from last conference and his talk on the flowers might be good ones. I know my own mother dislikes being called a good mother because she feels so awful about how she raised us from her perspective. Idealsno, no maam not for me. Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? Elder Ballard mainly focused on young mothers in this talk from 2008. But her mother held a yardstick, and if her daughter played the wrong key, her mother smacked her across the back ofher hands, thus providing sufficient negative reinforcement to motivate her to do it right the next time through. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. Alma 56:47-48. Tony, thanks! Along with activities and programs during the week, Latter-day Saints gather on Sundays for an approximately hour-long "sacrament" meeting, where men, women and younger members offer prayers and give sermons, sing hymns and partake of the sacrament (similar to receiving communion). Why..thank you! The division of labor between the holidays helped to alleviate some of the awkwardness of the women = mothers mindset that we face in the US. Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. The music . 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She never got her kids back and they never forgave her, and she died of some incurable stress induced disease. Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother. A friend once proposed a thought experiment. My wife spoke on Mothers Day (which I originally thought was a bad choice, because she herself appears to the outside world to be the perfect mother) about her own mother and some of the simple things her mother had done for her that made a big difference in her life and how grateful she was. I remember being confused by a few Mothers Day talks growing up. 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Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. Maybe we should do it eucharistic-like so I dont have to feel guilty? Thanks, kc! Mother's Day Singing Time Idea. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. I thought my husband (Sonny) had already posted this, but maybe not, or Im just blinder than usual. But Ive also read this: 40 Behold, ye are little children and ye cannot bear all things now; ye must grow in grace and in the knowledge of the truth. Ere the sun goes down. Does this mean that finally..a talk could be about our Heavenly Mothers? I could brave baby showers and birth announcements just fine, but Mother's Day cut me to the core. " Cogito! They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. I just pray that the spirit can convey the message that seems so exciting in my heart. So that no woman felt left out. Show me a sinless mother and she can be my ideal too. Mothers Day is celebrated, and increasingly commercialized, but my impression of the local situation is that ones obligation to honor ones mother is largely discharged at home. I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. Questions and Answers about the Sacrament, Remember Jesus Christ during the Sacrament, The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part1: Loss and Christian Reformations), The Restoration of the Sacrament (Part2: A New and Ancient Covenant), Sharing Time: Be Grateful for the Sacrament, Viewpoint: The Sacred Ordinance of the Sacrament, Young Men, Teach about the Sacrament, Brother Beck Says. Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. What Can I Do? So this year we are setting up tables and chairs in the gym, hauling in meat and cheese and veggies and chocolate, and the Bishop will talk for five minutes and then we will let everybody socialize while I play the tuba for the entire primary.